Delight Schooling 

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I remember sitting at our kitchen table years ago, trying to get one of my kids through a page in a workbook on ancient Egypt while she kept sneaking a peek at her book on Ancient Greece. I could have corrected her back onto the worksheet. Instead, I paused and asked her about what she likes best about Ancient Greece. Twenty minutes later, she’d come up with a complete story world, set in Ancient Greece, and she went to build a Lego world to go with it. She never did finish that worksheet. But that afternoon taught me something I’ve carried through decades of homeschooling ten kids: sometimes the rabbit trail is the lesson.

In the homeschooling world, we call this delight-directed learning, or as some call it: Delight Schooling. It’s the practice of letting what genuinely lights your child up become part of the curriculum, instead of treating it as a distraction from the real one.

So What Is Delight Schooling, Exactly?

You may have heard it called delight-directed learning, interest-led learning, or child-led learning. Whatever name you use, the heart of it is the same: you watch for what your child already loves, and you let that lead more of your homeschool day than the table of contents does.

This isn’t a new idea. Charlotte Mason, the British educator whose ideas still shape so many of our homeschools, boiled her whole philosophy down to one motto:

Not a stack of worksheets. An atmosphere your child breathes, good habits built over time, and a life fed on ideas, including the ones your child brings to the table.

Writers like Julie Bogart of Brave Writer and speakers like Heidi St. John have carried that same heart into modern homeschooling: pay attention to what your kids talk about, ask about, and get lost in, and let that become part of the school day instead of an interruption to it.

Here’s the truth I keep coming back to. Psalm 139:14 tells us we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Every one of our kids was wired on purpose, with delights and curiosities that are part of God’s design for them, not a distraction from it.

A Family Living This Out

I got to see delight schooling in action recently when I interviewed author Millie Florence on my podcast, Avid Readers of Christian Fiction (link from Christen). Millie is a homeschool grad who published her first book at age thirteen and won the Realm Award for Middle Grade Fiction for her novel The Mage Pocket: Apprentice Alliance. When I asked how homeschooling shaped her as a writer, Millie flipped the question around on me in the best way. For her, she said, it was less about how homeschooling shaped the author, and more about how her desire to be an author shaped her homeschooling.

Millie told me her parents were always intentional about shaping her and her siblings’ education around their passions. Her mom’s own phrase for it was delight-directed: centered on what each child loved and wanted to learn.

Here’s what I love most: Millie wasn’t the only one in her family chasing a big dream. One of her younger brothers became a drone racer and, at one point, was the third-fastest in the world. He now works in drone cinematography in Los Angeles. 

Another sibling is deep into sports, and another runs a little cottage bakery out of their home, selling at the farmer’s market after taking culinary classes.

Four very different kids, four very different paths, all grown out of the same delight-directed soil.

Millie also pointed out something I don’t want you to miss: chasing a passion doesn’t just teach one skill. To become a published author, she also had to learn graphic design, social media management, enough coding to build her own website, the spreadsheets behind publishing costs, how to work with illustrators, and public speaking. One delight became a whole education.

Five Ways to Practice Delight Schooling in Your Home

If you’re ready to try this in your own homeschool, here’s where I’d start.

1. Watch before you plan

Before you write next week’s lesson plan, spend a few days just watching. What does your child bring up at dinner, unprompted? What book do they beg to reread? Deuteronomy 6:6-7 tells us to talk about God’s ways as we sit at home and as we walk along the road, in ordinary moments. Delight schooling just asks us to notice the ordinary moments a little more closely.

These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 NIV

2. Let one delight open a dozen doors

Millie’s story is the perfect example. Her love of storytelling pulled in design, technology, math, and public speaking, all in service of one delight. If your child loves horses, that’s not just a hobby to indulge after schoolwork. That’s biology, history, budgeting, and reading, waiting to happen.

3. Resist comparing your kids

Millie wasn’t the only one in her family chasing a big dream. One of her brothers became a drone racer, once the third-fastest in the world. Another sibling runs a little cottage bakery. I’ve raised ten kids of my own now, and I can tell you: the child who devours novels and the child who’d rather build something with his hands are both being formed by the same faithful God. Neither one owes you the same transcript. And yes, while you do have to create a homeschool transcript for your child, the requirements vary widely by state. It just takes creativity to ensure you’re aligning your student’s passions with the state requirements.

4. Be the door-opener, not the answer key

Delight-directed doesn’t mean hands-off. Hand your child the library card, the class, the mentor, the materials, then let them run with it. You’re not the source of all knowledge. You’re the one who keeps opening doors.

5. Let it be messy and still count

A delight-schooling afternoon might look like feathers, glue, and a half-finished diorama on your kitchen table instead of a completed worksheet. That still counts. Trust that the same God who wired your child’s curiosity is directing it, even on the days it doesn’t look like school.

You Don’t Need a Perfect Curriculum

Looking back at that world-building afternoon, I used to think my job was to get my kids through the material. What I’ve learned over three decades of homeschooling is that the moments that stuck weren’t the ones where we finished the workbook. They were the ones where I put the workbook down and followed my kid’s curiosity instead.

If you’re just starting to explore delight schooling, don’t overhaul your whole homeschool this week. Pick one thing your child keeps circling back to, and give it room to grow into a whole afternoon. See what happens.

A Prayer for the Homeschool Parent

Lord, I lift up the parent reading this today, the one who feels the weight of the lesson plan and wonders if they’re doing enough. Remind them that You are the One who wired their child’s curiosity in the first place, and that You don’t need a perfect curriculum to accomplish Your purposes. Give them eyes to see the delight already there, and the courage to build the day around it. Thank You for the gift of watching a child discover something they love. Amen.

Until next time, keep watching for the delight.

An Exciting Opportunity

Have you ever dreamed of walking the cobblestone streets of Europe and stepping right into the pages of history? I would love to invite you to join me for a special adventure in August 2027. We are heading to the breathtaking city of Prague!

Writing historical fiction and navigating the homeschool journey has shown me that a beautiful adventure begins when we step into the very places where history was made. 

The 2027 Prague Experience offers three unique paths to fit your heart’s calling:

• The Mission Experience: Serve alongside local ministries and build meaningful relationships within the community.
• The Homeschool Experience: Bring history, literature, culture, and faith to life through immersive education for your family.
• The Leisure Experience: Take in the stunning architecture, enjoy authentic Czech cuisine, and share wonderful fellowship.

We will discover historic landmarks and celebrate a rich Christian heritage together. The itinerary is being finalized right now, and there is no obligation to simply learn more.

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